Are People Not Taking You Seriously?

 

Do you lack in creating a LONG lasting impression on your friends and colleagues? 

When you talk to someone, do they feel BORED and lose eye contact with you?

Are people not NOTICING you when you go to any party or seminar?

Do people take you for GRANTED?

Are people not treating you with RESPECT?

If your answer was YES to all or some of the questions above…

Do you know the reason WHY is this happening with you?

Because YOU have built YOUR IMAGE that ways.

 

As individuals, we often struggle to get answers to some of these questions. Nowadays, many people complain that they are not taken seriously by others. Today, companies are look out for people who can create a long lasting impression on their employees.

 

“We have a guy in our office who wants to be a prince so badly he’s spent his whole life kissing frogs and a few other things”. – Gene Perret 

 

I asked my friend, Swati Marhia, Founder and Chief Image Consultant at Persona Redefined, to help my blog readers find solution to this growing problem and she readily agreed and shared her experience with us.

 

Are You Ready To Learn the 5 Ways To Present Yourself in a Better Way?

 

Yes?

 

Great, then read on…

 

Just the other day, I met this person who came to me with a problem.

 

He said, “People don’t take me seriously. Right from my colleagues, my wife and my children to my friends, no one care to take me seriously. Swati, can you help me please?

 

What could be the possible reason?

 

I saw him from head to toe. He was the team leader in a BPO (Business Process Outsourcing) company. When I met him, he was coming back from work and I looked at his attire.

 

He was wearing jeans and a half sleeves shirt.  The color of his shirt was dull green which was not going too well with his jeans. He was wearing glasses with a thick black frame. He was staring at me as if I was the first woman he has seen in his entire life. While talking to me, I noticed his tone and body language. His voice was very low and he was looking confused. His shoulders were drooping and he barely used any hand movements or gestures while conversing. 

 

I hope you can get a fair idea of the personality of him, given the fact he was coming back from work, would you like to talk to him? As he was my client, rather than being judgmental, I genuinely wanted to help him. 

 

“Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice”. – Ayn Rand

 

This is a very common issue. Knowingly or unknowingly, people project themselves in such a manner that they become “Turn offs” for others. They scrutinize all the possible reasons for it. They attend all those “How to Become…” seminars related to , personality development, leadership and management. They undergo trainings, visit counselors and what not.

 

But does it help….?

 

May be may be not….

 

I would like to throw some light here and make you understand that how people perceive and form judgments about us. 50% of time it depends on our attire, 30% on our body language, 10% on the way we look at others (eye contact) , 10% on our tone, voice and the way we present ourselves overall.

 

Your image is your visual profile. On the first go, people judge you on the way you look and behave. So if they don’t take you seriously, that means somehow you are making them not to take you seriously. Remember, the weapon is in your hand. You can actually make others perceive the way you want them to.

 

So what are you supposed to do in these kinds of situations?

 

Here are my 5 tips which will help you present yourself in a better way in front of others:

 

1. Understand Your Role:

You need to keep in mind the role that you are playing in your professional life. So, if you are a Team Leader or a Manager, make sure you dress properly to work. You would like to become a Role Model for your team members.

My advice is to try and always wear full sleeves shirt if you are in a leadership role.

Half sleeves shirt….?

A big NO NO when you are handling a team.

If your are the Big Boss then you can even wear a tie over your shirt or even a nice formal blazer at work will look amazing. That will give an authoritative look and slowly people’s perception of you would change. Never wear jeans at work (if its not declared or if you call have a policy of “Casual Fridays”).

Jeans is one of the most casual attire. Make sure that you keep your body language and your way of talking correct. Extremely low and polite tone all the time also tends to make people take us for granted.

“I tried dressing for success once. It clashed with the rest of my life.”

2. What’s the Occasion and Time:

It’s easy to spot the boss at the company picnic. He’s the one wearing Bermuda shorts and a tie.

Always dress up according to the occasion and time. If you are going to a team dinner then wearing a jeans and a full sleeves shirt can be acceptable. If you are going for an official lunch with your boss then you need to be formally dressed.

3. Be Yourself:

Its very important that while following the right way of dressing up, you don’t lose your own personal style and touch.

Your personal style describes the way You Are

So if you are a person who is very reserved and shy, then I am pretty sure that a bright red will not be suit your persona. I don’t mean that you CAN NEVER wear bright red. But I mean that if you do wear that color then people will perceive you as an outgoing personality which you are not. So colors also play a very vital part in creating an impression in front of others.

4. Analyze Your Body Language:

You need to pay attention to your body language when you meet someone.

Drooping shoulders show that either you are bored or you are low in confidence. Straight and erect posture shows that you are alert. Good eye contact shows that you are interested in listening or talking to the other person. A parallel handshake shows that you are confident.  A right body language can get you respect from others.

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5. Take Advice from Experts:

Lastly if you feel that your knowledge about presenting yourself the way you want is not sufficient enough then you can surely take an expert advice. An Image Consultant is an expert who can help you project your image exactly the way how you want people to perceive you as keeping in mind your own personal style. There are four A’s involved in projecting your image:

  1. Appropriate
  2. Authentic
  3. Attractive and
  4. Affordable

An Image Consultant will guide you as to how you can follow these 4 A’s and make a positive and stronger first impression.

So let us know if you are struggling in your life and if we can help you create a difference for you. Share your story and let us hear your experience.

Swati Marhia

Swati Marhia

Image Consultant at Persona Redefined
Swati Marhia is the Founder and Chief Image Consultant at Persona Redefined. She is also a soft skill Trainer. She has over 6 years of experience in the Airlines, International BPO as well as Training Industry. Persona Redefined is an Image Consultancy firm which works at its best to help transform your IMAGE inside out keeping in mind your own Personal Style.
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Comments

  1. Jennifer says

    Hi Amit,

    I have been following your blog for quite sometime now and i like the way you bring up topics for discussion. On the current topic on image consulting, I have couple of questions for clarification:-

    a) Does the training in image management includes make-up, dresses, colour palettes etc.? What all it overall includes?

    b) I am wondering how much money I would have to spend, to undergo an image enhancement? .

    Jennifer

  2. says

    Hi Jennifer,

    Thanks for your feedback and that you are liking my posts.

    Coming to the questions, I think that a course in image management, requires an overall conditioning of self and ones personality. You may contact Swati for more details on this.

    I think the investment is not that huge but the results that you will gain out of it will be far beyond the investment that you will make.

    Amit

  3. Swati Marhia says

    Hi Raghu and Jennifer,

    Thank you for your questions..

    a) Image Consultancy is a huge topic. It includes an overall development and transformation of a person inside out. There are 4 major subject that I deal in- Clothing, Grooming, Body language including etiquette and communication.

    b) There are different kinds of packages available in it. I do individual as well as group/corporate image consultancy. Individual Image consultancy will cost you approx 25000 if you take the entire package about 25 hours. However I do give option of choosing the services that you need the most. Group consultancy doesn’t have a fixed package fee since I customize it according to the client’s needs.

    You can visit my website: http://www.personaredefined.com or even write to me on: swati@personaredefined.com

    Regards,
    Swati Marhia

  4. says

    Thank
    you for your questions..

    a) Image Consultancy is a huge topic. It includes an overall
    development and transformation of a person inside out. There are 4 major
    subject that I deal in- Clothing, Grooming, Body language including etiquette
    and communication.

    b) There are different kinds of packages available in it. I do
    individual as well as group/corporate image consultancy. Individual Image
    consultancy will cost you approx 25000 if you take the entire package about 25
    hours. However I do give option of choosing the services that you need the
    most. Group consultancy doesn’t have a fixed package fee since I customize it
    according to the client’s needs.

    You can visit my website: http://www.personaredefined.com or even write
    to me on: swati@personaredefined.com

    Regards,

    Swati Marhia

  5. says

    Thanks a lot Swati for sharing the insights on the subject. I would suggest my readers to get in touch with you, in case they are looking for a customised package in India.

  6. Jennifer says

    Hi Swati,

    Thanks for the details.. I would like to ask you that … Will i get a certificate after completing the course or consultation ?? Will it prepare me for a career in image consulting or personal shopping after that ?? Or do i need to get into something like an advanced training to become a trainer myself?

    Regards,

    Jen

  7. says

    Dear Jennifer,

    I do not conduct train the trainer programs. I Do image consulting of people who want to transform their own image. However if you want to become an image consultant then you need to contact the institutes who conduct these certified programs.

    Regards,
    Swati

  8. says

    Hi Jennifer,

    I think the results which you will get after undergoing image consulting is far far beyond earning a mere certificate. If you are good in presenting yourself, none will ask you whether you got a certificate or not. As rightly mentioned by Swati, I would suggest you to do a thorough need assessment and what you would like to under go……Self Training or you want to become a trainer yourself?

    Hope Swati I am able to address the concern of jennifer appropriately ?

    Cheers!!!

    Amit

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