You too can Manage your Boss…

Don’t just say yes, boss! Superiors can be less than perfect. Figure out your leader’s personality type and learn to deal with them accordingly.
Boss Management


So you’ve planned a big tour through Europe with your friends, after speaking to your boss. This kind of boss has promised you can take the leave if you put in a few extra hours. A week before your flight, they turn around and say you can’t leave because there is a bigger project in the offing. You are stuck with The Dangler. They promise things in return for more work and do not fulfill those promises.


If you see this often, email your boss, copying everyone else in the meeting, about the promises and expectations. Practise writing self-appraisals, train yourself to look at the big picture and type out a self-appraisal every month to send to your boss. This will keep him in the loop about what you are accomplishing for the company. Remind them of their promises every once in a while. Have full faith in yourself – you are a valuable employee or you wouldn’t be here. Fearless is the only way to be. These bosses smell fear instinctively.   


This type is great to hang out with, and if you weren’t working together, you guys would’ve been best chums. But when the boss is upset if you don’t reveal personal things or forces you to hang out with him/her even if you have plans, it becomes problematic. They are always in your face and everything you do can turn into an emotional argument about how you hurt them. 
These bosses don’t have a life. Limit the personal info you share and keep your work and social life separate. You aren’t being rude, just drawing boundaries. 


 If you have barbs thrown at you constantly, like, “My kid makes better presentations than you” or “I’m glad you wore that dress, it reminds me of what my grandma wore when I was a kid”, then you are stuck with the viper. When they get to work, all they seem to want to do is spread their venom around and sink those fangs into you.
 Keep this one at arm’s length, you don’t want to be stung. Practise communicating directly with your boss keeping your worth in mind. 
You have been working really hard, but the project that was a done deal suddenly slipped through your fingers. Your boss is aware of the effort you have put in, but is still on your back because the numbers are down. This species does not understand anything other than stats. Your blood and sweat are just body fluids to them. 


 Do your homework to display a comparative report on numbers between yourself and your competitors. Document the number of attempts/hours spent per project.  


If the only person you can turn to during a crisis at work is the mirror, then you are suffering from the absent boss syndrome. They are always at meetings, imagined or real, and when it’s not work-related, they are chilling with the wife and kids at a seaside resort in Lakshadweep, while you are pulling 15-hour days in the office. 
Find ways to schedule weekly meetings with them. Try not to be spiteful that they are away. It could also be that they are not aware that you need them. 

 When was the last time you saw your boss smile? If your answer ranges between never and the last time they fired your colleague, then we sympathize with you. While anger is an emotion that is usually associated with bosses, this one is in the extreme. Whether you are doing a good or a bad job, it doesn’t matter. All you receive is a little spittle when they are screaming down your face and a few insults to wipe your face with.


Be as humorous as you can, smile at them, treat them as a human being you care about and see if your ‘love’ rubs off. They are the ones who probably think the only way to get anything done is to be pissed off. Offer them some kindness and see how the relationship shifts. Often it is your reaction and expectation that they are pissed off that causes the cycle, and it just keeps going on and on. It takes only one of you to change the dance between the two of you. So why not take the lead?



This is the one who walks on eggshells around you, apologizes when they ask you to do something, get walked all over by stronger employees and you often feel sorry for them. They are scared of you and this can be very disempowering. 
A good approach is to resume the role of a cheerleader and point out to this boss their strengths and show them appreciation. Make this boss look good to their superiors and to your colleagues.

Early to rise, early to bed. Okay, maybe the saying is the other way around, but this could well be your future if you are stuck with The Early Riser. They are obviously going to be stepping on toes, and your very simple day-to-day job can turn into a political drama.


They want to gain rank and accolades for themselves. Don’t feel bad, for often their promotion could mean a promotion for you too. Support this boss in looking good.  



Your office is a minefield if you are stuck with The Nitpicker. If you put your left foot forward, they assert that you should have put your right, and if you put your right, they ask why you didn’t swing your hands enough. They will always find fault in everything you do.  


 Set your boundaries. Let them know you are uncomfortable with them breathing over your shoulder. Request for an ‘Operation Manual’ if they want specifics.  


If your boss uses the Five Ws to begin every second sentence, unfortunately, you are stuck with The Memento-r. He forgets important meetings, ideas that you pitched, and sometimes even forgets that you exist. While you wish you could tattoo everything you spoke about on his body, you realize he is soon going to run out of skin.  

Help this one out with reminders, emails, post-its, notes. Speak to your colleagues to support this type of boss. Realise and acknowledge that they are in that position due to particular skills or expertise that they possess. If they tend to forget important information, communicating that with them and setting structures in place to help them would only help you in the long run.
Share with me your experiences on how you dealt with a difficult boss in the comments section below. I’m waiting to hear from you.
Article Coutesy:

Times Of India

Kevin Lobo

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Amit Bhagria
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  1. says

    With over ten years HR experience, I would not call myself a Young HR Manager but quite honestly these are very informative pieces of information. Glad I got into this site – albeit unaware!

    Keep up great job.

  2. Tochukwu Aderibigbe says

    Wow, thanks a lot for this valuable info. I am just doing this HR job based on trial & error, learning on the job, etc. I do not have prior training whatsoever. But I know that with you here, I would go places.

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